Life Equations?

When you ask people who study numbers why they love math so much, one of the main responses you hear will be, "Equations don't lie. There's no subjectivity, you follow the equation and get the answer that you're looking for."

In my many years of schooling, I've always wondered why life's questions couldn't be simplified into these unquestionable equations. But, when your focus is numbers and you're living life, the two eventually mix. Well, for me, at least. So let's take a stab at it.

Love and relationships. Without a doubt, when it comes to them, uncertainty is certain. You are never 100 percent sure of how the other person feels. You're never even 100 percent sure of how you feel. And we all know it, unrequited love doesn't work. We beat ourselves up for always questioning it. Always wondering. Telling ourselves that we're so stupid for feeling so unsure. But, it goes back to high school math. Maybe the things they teach you did stick. When it comes down to probability, the answer is right there. You're right in all your questioning.

Let's start with these simple equations of probability:

(Now, before I lose you, I promise - it's not as daunting as it looks.)

P(A) = the probability that you love your significant other

P(B) = the probability that they love you

P(A or B) = the probability that one of you loves the other

P(A and B) = the probability that you BOTH love each other

P(A and B) = P(A) x P(B)

P(A or B) = P(A) + P(B) - P(A and B)

Let's apply this to life.

Let's say you're with someone - and you're pretty sure that you love them, but there are those moments when you question if what you're feeling is real. So, let's say you're 90% sure of your love.

P(A) = .9

You're always going to question the feelings of your significant other, no matter what they tell you - because let's face it, it's human nature. Unless there's a meter on his heart that I can actually see, his sweet and loving words will never be 100 percent true. Let's say you're about 80% sure of his love.

P(B) = .8

So when you're 90% sure that you love him and 80% sure that he loves you, it's safe to say that the chances of one of you loving the other is pretty damn high.

P(A or B) = P(A) + P(B) - P(A and B)

= .9 + .8 - .72 = .98

Well shit, 98% is a really good percentage. Yes, but that's the chance of one of you loving the other, not both.

The number that really matters - P(A and B) - the probability that you BOTH love each other.

P(A and B) = .9 x .8 = .72

72 freaking percent. Yeah, that's passing. But is that enough when it comes to matters of the heart?

When it comes down to it, the odds of you both loving each other is always lower than that of one way love. So, hell yes, I'm going to question things! I know feelings can't be dumbed down to numbers, but the probabilities always work out that way - unless you're both 100% sure of your love.

In that rare and special case, it's safe to say that it comes down to that well known equation that we heard 2gether sing on MTV throughout our adolescent years:

You + Me = Us.

I know these equations don't answer whether or not your relationships will work out. But, maybe - just maybe - they might serve as some empirical proof that you're not insane for feeling all your uncertainties.